Thursday, June 26, 2008

A "Scar" Upon Thars

One of my favorite all time books is the Sneetches by Dr. Seuss. I believe that this applies to all of us in some way or another.

Bellies With Stars THE SNEETCHES
by Dr. Suess


Now the Star-bellied Sneetches had bellies with stars.
The Plain-bellied Sneetches had none upon thars.
The stars weren't so big; they were really quite small.
You would think such a thing wouldn't matter at all.
But because they had stars, all the Star-bellied Sneetches
would brag, "We're the best kind of Sneetch on the beaches."

With their snoots in the air, they would sniff and they'd snort, "
We'll have nothing to do with the plain-bellied sort."
And whenever they met some, when they were out walking,
they'd hike right on past them without even talking.

When the Star-bellied children went out to play ball,
could the Plain-bellies join in their game? Not at all!
You could only play ball if your bellies had stars,
and the Plain-bellied children had none upon thars.

When the Star-bellied Sneetches had frankfurter roasts,
or picnics or parties or marshmallow toasts,
they never invited the Plain-bellied Sneetches.
Left them out cold in the dark of the beaches.
Kept them away; never let them come near,
and that's how they treated them year after year.

Then one day, it seems, while the Plain-bellied Sneetches
were moping, just moping alone on the beaches,
sitting there, wishing their bellies had stars,
up zipped a stranger in the strangest of cars.

"My friends, " he announced in a voice clear and keen,
"My name is Sylvester McMonkey McBean.
I've heard of your troubles; I've heard you're unhappy.
But I can fix that; I'm the fix-it-up chappie.
I've come here to help you; I have what you need.
My prices are low, and I work with great speed,
and my work is one hundred per cent guaranteed."

Then quickly, Sylvester McMonkey McBean
put together a very peculiar machine.
Then he said, "You want stars like a Star-bellied Sneetch?
My friends, you can have them . . . . for three dollars each.
Just hand me your money and climb on aboard."

They clambered inside and the big machine roared.
It bonked. It clonked. It jerked. It berked.
It bopped them around, but the thing really worked.
When the Plain-bellied Sneetches popped out, they had stars!
They actually did, they had stars upon thars!

Then they yelled at the ones who had stars from the start,
"We're exactly like you; you can't tell us apart.
We're all just the same now, you snooty old smarties.
Now we can come to your frankfurter parties!"

"Good grief!" groaned the one who had stars from the first.
"We're still the best Sneetches, and they are the worst.
But how in the world will we know," they all frowned,
"if which kind is what or the other way 'round?"

Then up stepped McBean with a very sly wink, and he said,
"Things are not quite as bad as you think.
You don't know who's who, that is perfectly true.
But come with me, friends, do you know what I'll do?
I'll make you again the best Sneetches on beaches,
and all it will cost you is ten dollars eaches.

Belly stars are no longer in style, " said McBean.
"What you need is a trip through my stars-off machine.
This wondrous contraption will take off your stars,
so you won't look like Sneetches who have them on thars."

That handy machine, working very precisely,
removed all the stars from their bellies quite nicely.
Then, with snoots in the air, they paraded about.
They opened their beaks and proceeded to shout,
"We now know who's who, and there isn't a doubt,
the best kind of Sneetches are Sneetches without."

Then, of course those with stars all got frightfully mad.
To be wearing a star now was frightfully bad.
Then, of course old Sylvester McMonkey McBean
invited them into his stars-off machine.
Then, of course from then on, you can probably guess,
things really got into a horrible mess.

All the rest of the day on those wild screaming beaches,
the Fix-it-up-Chappie was fixing up Sneetches.
Off again, on again, in again, out again,
through the machine and back round about again,
still paying money, still running through,
changing their stars every minute or two,
until neither the Plain- nor the Star-bellies knew
whether this one was that one or that one was this one
or which one was what one or what one was who!

Then, when every last cent of their money was spent,
the Fix-It-Up-Chappie packed up and he went.
And he laughed as he drove in his car up the beach,
"They never will learn; no, you can't teach a Sneetch!"

But McBean was quite wrong, I'm quite happy to say,
the Sneetches got quite a bit smarter that day.
That day, they decided that Sneetches are Sneetches,
and no kind of Sneetch is the BEST on the beaches.
That day, all the Sneetches forgot about stars,
and whether they had one or not upon thars



As I looked at Nathan's different scars from all of his surgeries, I couldn't help but think of this poem last night. I've heard from countless different people, "Nathan must be a pretty special little guy to have endured all of this." Its true, he is special and I think that he does have a special reason he came to this earth to be a part of our family. I'm sure I will learn a lot from him! On the other hand though, he's really no more special than Elisabeth. He just has different challenges, that's all. His scars show physical struggle but don't encompass any emotional problems or other problems that don't show a physical sign of pain. I'm finally learning that I can't compare my children at all. They are both unique in their strengths and experiences. They are both growing and learning at their own rate and came with completely different personalities! I love Ellie for her humor, her sensitivity to feelings (especially when I'm crying), and her zest for life. Life isn't going to hold a dull moment for her! Nathan is much more laid back and passive. He's extremely curious about his hands and the people around him. He is going to have more physical challenges than his sister but he doesn't seem terribly affected by it. He is content with the moment. Don't get me wrong, its still hard not to remember that Ellie was 18 pounds at 5 months and Nathan is barely 13! Its what I know as a parent. But my resolve is to not compare them to each other.

As some of you know very well, having a child with physical problems comes with very unique challenges. That doesn't make that child any more loved than the other children you have. It just makes one appreciate diversity.


So the poem should really end as:

But McBean was quite wrong, I'm quite happy to say,
the Mothers got quite a bit smarter that day.
That day, they decided that Children are Children,
and no kind of Child is the BEST on the beaches.
That day, all the Mothers forgot about scars,
and whether their child had one or not upon thars.

2 comments:

Mom & Dad Ellinger said...

SO NICELY SAID. You are just getting smarter and smarter by leaps and bounds. I so appreciate the sharing of your great wisdom. It is so very true what you have shared and so nicely written. Once again you have a wonderful way of expressing yourself and it will be remembered forever in your written thoughts. Be sure to download your blogs into the blog book software that I showed you so that just in some far out case anything happens to online access or to the blogger.com website that you will have it backed up somewhere. You have spent a lot of time and thought on your blogs and you don't want to lose anything to something that you have no control over. I am soooo proud of you and the great leaps and bounds of learning that you have had through this experience with both Nathan and Elisabeth. Sometimes we have to grow up faster than we want but perhaps it is for some purpose of the Lord that he will need you to serve Him at a later date. Who knows!

Janice & Don said...

I love the new version best, better and better than all of the rest. But don't forget that despite all the different scars- each person will always carry good (and earned) scars upon thars!

Okay- so I'm not Dr. Suess, just a cheap and slightly less talented version. I've also come to discover that you can never compare children, no matter how much you want to! My dear yoda sister, become much wise, you have. And like your MiL stated, have a wonderful way of putting your experiences into words.